I know it shouldn't bother me. But, the truth is... it does. A lot. And, that is why it has now made the blog.
Friday morning I was at my daughter's school for a ceremony. In the midst of the many parents seated in the stands, I saw some friends whose child is in the same class. The wife looked at me in amazement and made a gesture about my weight loss. The husband's response? In front of everyone, he screamed up to her, "I know. She's lost a Backstreet Boy!"
Perhaps that is a compliment and it shouldn't offend me? I don't know. I was pretty much mortified. And, I literally turned and walked away because I could feel the tears forming.
I hate it when I get a comment like that. While the actual weight might equate to a small child or (another one I get a lot) an actual "third grader," I don't want to hear it. It saddens me. It embarrasses me. And, on occasion, it can bring me to tears. I'm not proud of what I was before. And, hearing it in those terms is a reminder of an existence I don't want to be associated with.
This doesn't mean I'm not proud of my accomplishment. I'd just rather leave the Backstreet Boys out of it.
Oh Christy! Oh my gosh. I'm so sorry.
ReplyDeleteIt reminds me of comments people will make about my arthritis -- when I get out of a car limping, people will say "What happened to YOU?" or "Did you get kicked in the knee??" like that's just HIE-larious.
And my elbow ... I love the plain and simple "My God, what happened to your ELBOW?!?!" like I've grown an extra one.
In any case, it's obvious people don't know how to deal with an achievement as extraordinary as yours, and stuff just comes out of their mouths all unbidden. I'm really sorry this happened to you.
*many hugs*
What a rude person he was! He was trying to be funny by quoting Billy Crystal from the movie America's Sweethearts. Billy Crystal, when told that Julia Robert's character had lost 60lb, said...."that's a Backstreet Boy!". But to say that to anyone in reality is just rude. But congratulations on your accomplishment---I'm keeping my fingers crossed that this time next year I'll be able to claim the same!!!
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